Stacy was asked to provide therapy services for a family in the Amish community where a number of children were sexually abused by an individual who worked his way into the community in order to prey on these innocent children (please note: identifying client information is not included and the clients have provided express written request and permission for Stacy to use their story publicly without identifying information in order to assist therapists and parents in helping prevent sexual abuse for other children).
Stacy Jagger has a message for colleagues and parents
The following video interviews for parents and colleagues describe her experience:
Stacy is on a mission to help her colleagues find way to help educate parents on how to talk to their children, to know what signs to look for in order to help children who have been sexually molested. Stacy has written a children’s book called A Letter From Emma which is a resource to assist children and parents with this difficult but important topic. She also has created an animated video for parents and therapists to share with children to engage in meaningful and important conversation.
An interview with Stacy Jagger, LMFT, RPT
Q. What message would you like parents to hear about protecting children from sexual predators?
A. That this is an important message, that there are resources to help you prepare and protect your children, as well as resources for those who have already been victimized. It is actually crucial to be proactive and preventative given the statistics on the prevalence of sexual abuse of children.
Q. What advice do you have for parents who have no idea how to even begin talking to children about how to stay safe?
A. A Letter from Emma video and book (linked above and below), as well as other resources on this subject are available to help you begin conversations and bring up subjects such as safety, strong and healthy boundaries, appropriate vs. inappropriate touch. Please utilize these resources now. Don’t procrastinate as many parents tend to do because they are uncomfortable broaching this subject.
Q. What did you learn from your experience working with the Amish community that surprised you?
A. That despite their limited exposure to technology, the issues of physical and emotional safety and sexual abuse are unfortunately very pertinent to even the most sheltered communities.
Q. What experience did you take away from working with the Amish community that has informed the way you practice as a therapist and parenting educator?
A. I learned that it is easier to heal with fewer distractions and that a family game of dominos provides a better opportunity to connect than a family movie night. This continues to inform my practice as I guide families through my 30-Day Blackout Intervention which is a large part of the work I do with families, involving taking an extended break from access to electronic devices and screen time to enhance more true connecting conversations.
Q. Anything else you’d like to say about this?
A. The book, which led to the chalk drawing video, although originally intended for the Amish, is applicable to all cultures, and that the family have asked me to share their story in hopes of helping as many children and families as possible.
You can view and purchase Stacy’s Emma book and song through the links below. Note “Emma” is not the real name of a client but is illustrative of one of the girl’s healing journey in therapy.
In addition to being a highly skilled creative therapist for children and families, Stacy is also a very gifted musician and she has written and performed a song for “Emma” and every little girl who has been sexually abused. You can preview it and download it here: